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Gratitude Muscle

Gratitude Muscle
Much has made about the effectiveness of exercising your gratitude muscle. The health benefits of gratitude are broad and often begin with lowered stress, stronger relationships, and more energy. But how we practice this exercise, and make it part of our daily lives, is the dilemma. Here are five observations about what gratitude is not and a few tips for training the muscle:

Old dog. No tricks.

Old Dog. No Tricks.
The aging family dog relies on a comfortable routine to manage life. Slowing down is just fine. Needs are simplified: a little less food, shorter walks, a bit of help getting into the car. Decisions about health interventions are made with the perspective of limited time left. Still, there is delight in sharing life.

Goodbye, Mom

Goodbye, Mom The Stone Clinic
Moms: We all have one. At some point, they leave us. In my case, the end was bittersweet, knowing that she lived too long and would never have wanted her days to end in a nursing home. Can’t we do better than this?

Stress

Stress The Stone Clinic
We all experience it. Sometimes, we can use it to our advantage. But more often it is a disease, rotting our insides. Is there a treatment for stress? A vaccine or a cure? Let’s look at performance, relationships, and sleep. Each is affected by stress in a different way, and each has a variety of useful and useless responses.

Succumbing

Succumbing The Stone Clinic
We give in too often. Whether it is to an injury, disease, age, or to loneliness, the affliction overwhelms our potential. In such cases, the Latin expression Illigitimi non carborundum—“Don’t let the bastards get you down”—applies to all.

Unweighting Depression

Unweighting Depression The Stone Clinic
Depression afflicts us all at some point. It may be the more difficult, internal, life-changing kind or the post-injury, temporary loss of performance kind. It is deflating, demoralizing, and debilitating, yet the cause is often invisible.

The Disability You Don’t Have

The Disability You Don’t Have The Stone Clinic
“I’m grateful to not be that guy.” How often do you say this to yourself when you see someone with an obvious disability? That same gratitude is what you need to feel when it’s you who are hurt.

Aging Impact Score

Aging Impact Score The Stone Clinic
We have all become hypersensitized to the effects of the things around us, the activities we do, and the food we put into our bodies. If each activity has a negative and positive effect, can we score them? Here is my effort to create the “Stone Aging Impact Score” with each activity having a negative or positive effect on a scale of minus 10 to plus 10.

Get Out to Get In

Get Out to Get In The Stone Clinic
Life has turned inward. The smartphone, the personal computer, streaming TV, even our counseling sessions have turned our view inward. But if you really want to see what’s inside, get outside.

The Mind Game—Again

The Mind Game—Again The Stone Clinic
When Serena Williams was penalized during the US Open, she turned her anger against her accuser—the umpire—rather than on her opponent. She lost. At the same event, when Roger Federer suffered from the high heat and humidity he couldn’t wait to get out of the poorly designed Arthur Ashe tennis stadium. He lost.

The Sports Injury Trip

The Sports Injury Trip The Stone Clinic
Perseverate, verb: to repeat or prolong an action, thought, or utterance, long after the stimulus that prompted it has ceased. Perseveration is a repetitive focus on the same issue, a recycling through the mind of thoughts that won’t go away—memories that trap you in the pain or anger of some past event. How to break free? Here are some of the techniques we use after sports injuries get you down.

ACL Depression Syndrome

ACL Depression Syndrome The Stone Clinic
A recent study documented that 40% of people who undergo ACL surgery experience clinically diagnosable depression. Life disruptions are a drag—especially when they put the brakes on your active lifestyle.
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